> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://blog.brytnational.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # The Humility of the Journey: Parenting the Anxious Child - URL: https://blog.brytnational.com/the-humility-of-the-journey-parenting-the-anxious-child/ - Published: 2025-03-05T12:37:00.000Z - Updated: 2026-11-02T11:54:53.000Z - Description: Our children don’t need perfect parents; they need real ones. Explore a healing-centered approach to childhood anxiety with Dr. Kia Cheeseborough Jackson, focusing on the power of presence and the transformative strength of shared humanity.12:53 - Author: bryt team - Tags: Community Support There is a common myth we tell ourselves about childhood: that it is a worry-free zone. We look back at our own early years and remember the simple joy of a new toy or the excitement of a Saturday morning, and we forget that even then, we had storms of our own. When we see our children struggling with anxiety—the sudden tears, the irritability, the "stomach aches" before school—it is easy to feel like we are failing. It is easy to feel the weight of judgment from a stranger in a grocery store aisle when our child is having a "moment." But the truth is, anxiety is not a problem to be solved; it is a human emotion to be managed. And the most important part of that management isn't a set of perfect protocols—it is the courage to be human alongside our children. Recently, the bryt Family Engagement team gathered for a learning session with Dr. Kia Cheeseborough Jackson. While Dr. Cheeseborough Jackson brings a wealth of academic expertise as a social psychologist, the most resonant parts of her guidance didn't come from her PhD—they came from her experience as a mother to her eight-year-old son, Elijah. ## Understanding the Storm Anxiety is often our body's way of trying to tell us that something is dangerous, even when no real danger exists. For a child, this "fight or flight" response can be overwhelming. It steals their ability to concentrate in class; it makes their heart race; it turns a simple transition into a mountain. When we see this, our instinct as adults is often to "fix" it. We want to stop the tears; we want to resolve the conflict. But the secret to supporting an anxious child is to move from a place of **fixing** to a place of **presence**. ## Tools for the Journey Dr. Cheeseborough Jackson shared several gentle strategies to help children navigate these waters, reminding us that the goal is not to eliminate anxiety, but to build the capacity to handle it. ### 1\. The Power of the "Safe Harbor" Before a child can learn a coping skill, their body must feel safe. We can help them return to baseline by prioritizing physical grounding. Whether it's a sensory walk, a rocking chair, or a quiet corner, creating a physical sanctuary allows the brain to shift from survival mode back into a place of connection. ### 2\. Leading with Curiosity When we encounter a meltdown, our default is often to react with our own stress. But curiosity is a bridge. By asking open-ended questions—*"Can you tell me what this feels like in your body?"* or *"When did this start for you?"*—we invite the child to be the author of their own story. We stop being the "manager" of their behavior and start being the witness to their experience. ### 3\. Modeling the Messy Parts Perhaps the most profound lesson from Dr. Cheeseborough Jackson is the importance of modeling our own imperfection. Our children don't need "perfect" parents; they need "real" ones. When we admit, *"I'm feeling a bit anxious today, too,"* or *"I didn't handle that moment correctly, and I'm sorry,"* we are giving our children permission to be human. We are teaching them that stress is a part of life, but it doesn't have to define it. ## The Courage to be Seen One of the most poignant moments of the session was the discussion about parenting in public—the fear of being judged, especially for parents of color, when a child is struggling. The feeling of "saving face" can be a heavy burden. But there is a transformative power in solidarity. When we see another parent struggling in a store, we have the opportunity to be a lighthouse for them. A simple, *"I've been there, my child does the same thing,"* can change a parent's entire day. It transforms a moment of shame into a moment of shared humanity. ## A Shared Voyage As we navigate the complexities of parenting, we must remember that there is no manual. We are all learning, adjusting, and occasionally making mistakes. But in those mistakes, there is growth. In the moments where we fail to use our strategies, we find the opportunity to apologize and reconnect. We are not just raising children; we are growing alongside them. **To every parent navigating these waters: you are not alone. We are a fleet, sailing together, learning how to lead with curiosity, grace, and an abundance of love.** --- ### Dr. Kia Cheeseborough Jackson Dr. Kia Cheeseborough Jackson is a distinguished social psychologist, educator, and community advocate dedicated to bridging the gap between academic theory and community-based practice. With nearly a decade of experience in education and community engagement, Dr. Jackson has held a diverse array of roles, including elementary school teacher, school guidance counselor, and child welfare advocate. Throughout her career, she has remained steadfast in her commitment to advocating for children and families, creating supportive environments that foster resilience and empowerment. She holds an Associate of Arts from Spelman College and both a Master of Arts and a PhD in Social Psychology from Clark University. Currently, she serves as a Training Coordinator at the University of Maryland Global Campus (UMGC) and an Adjunct Professor at Smith College. --- ### Full Video